So basically, I had to find s way to call these guys out for their actions. But I couldn't do it in their own page. They would delete comments (The group admins)and then begin to mock and humiliate you. Keep in mind, some of these people are seeking support for more than just "depression". I lost my brother in April....a d I refused to process that for a very long time. Some people in there...they are dealing with traumatic depression.
We all lost someone ex6remely dear to us last year...and ge is irreplaceable. As a human being and just the man he was. I cant tell you how MUCH I miss George too...
So this....treatment...I was quietly observing, well, it wasnt setting well with me.
It wasnt sitting well with me at ALL!
I had to find a way to bait the admins to my public page so I could expose them for the frauds they are. But I couldn't do it "my way". If I did it my way. My post would have been extreme anger tainted with the hottest fire a d brimstone.
No.
I had to do it in a way the admins couldn't resist. What they saw as perceived weakness. So I sat back....and made my post. It went something like this:
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High Vibe Multidimensional Tribe
I've stuck with you guys through thick and thin, I've tried to support and hopefully encourage the help that some people need to start healing.
I've loved my time there and the countless members that have supported and helped through my dark times.
High Vibes group...no offense, but you have some people ( and admin) who think that by condescendingly talking down to people who "ask questions" about their views is some kind of advice.
Some people....are in NO position to give the kind of advice they give. The way some of you talk to people who are drowning in darkness trying desperately to find a sliver of light..SOMEWHERE..and that "Somewhere" in my opinion and to me personally, I'll seek out other people that have gone through similar experiences, someone that may understand for once. Or possibly I'll try to pick the brain of someone who life and positive attitudes shines through them and at times, I ask "what's your secret"
✌
Thanks so much for the memories, and the friends I've made wouldn't trade for anything in the world. BUT ...I think I've seen and heard enough.
Good luck to you all. I'll miss ya
Really! I will
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The plan worked and three admins, including the owner of the group came to my page. After so e verbal back and forth I had them talking a d they were "playing the high Vibes part". Tellong me things like I need to grow and I need to realize who "the f@#$ was"
I had all 4 admins 9n my page, some insulting me like their other members. I cant say truly what happened next be cause I finally wanted to get to the point of what I was getting at. This is when the BALLGAME changed because the response I made....It wasnt me. the writing style, the calmness yet FIRMNESS of the point that needed to be heard.
This us when, I believe, I got triggered, and the Cheif took over.if I'm wrong I apologize If this was him, this is what he had to say:
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Juliette Lopez Dave Kinniburgh Therese Medina
Theres a huge reason I made this post today and made it on my personal page.
I want what I have to say to you guys to be honest..open...and REAL.
No locking comments, no thread deleting, no silencing members. I'm going to say what I'm going to say and however you take it...and if possible, become AWARE of the very REAL power you all hold.
Have any if you...EVER...thought of the ramifications of shallow, heartless responses to trauma survivors or people currently going through it now.
Im.not talking about myself here so let's get that cleared up right away with this response but I want you all to REALLY think about how you approach these people..and you should treat EVERY member in there as a potential survivor of something because they sure as hell arent going to tell you outright.
This is ALL hypothetical
Say a new member decides they want to join your group. They are on their last legs...for whatever reason. They have been shunned by family, shunned by friends (perhaps of their past
) and shunned by, what feels like, society.
They join high Vibes, read its mission statement and decides that THIS might be the last bastion of hope this person can try to see if he/she can find other like minded people for support.
Fast forward a little bit and a conversation about cancer comes up. Now perhaps this person has lost someone to cancer and still Carrie's the scars from it to this day.
This person has never said a word in high Vibes yet...just reads. Then one day, a meme is posted by an admin that says "90 percent of your problems in life are caused by you". Now this person would like some clarification because say..sixty percent of that person's problems is losing someone they cared about to a debilitating disease. The HELPLESSNESS as they watch their loved one slowly wither away, but this person tries with all their soul to try and make their last days comfortable.
This person asks..."but what if my problems are caused by things I cant control?"
And this person, this ADMIN, who is supposed to be a personification and a representative of the groups ideals and goals tells you "Get over it and move on with life ❤"
Just like that
Now this person tries to explain that you cant just "get over" cancer but the admin, after some condescending comments from other group members, decides to double down on his statement and says, after other snarky comments, that " Cancer is curable and you'll get over it" or something to that effect.
Now...this person is triggered, but not in the way some of you like to point out to people after you say something beep-beep up..like "ohhh your emotional response tells me you need healing."
NOW....WHAT IF....that person didnt handle it the way I did. That person didnt decide to go on facebook, make a long winded post and try to get people to STILL und ere stand where that person is coming from.
Instead, that person decides that was the straw that broke the camel's back...gobbles a bottle of sleeping pills and its goodbye...cruel...world...
You all NEED to understand the ramifications of being dicks to people who are drowning in misery and sadness. And you'll NEVER know who is having those kind of thoughts, because they will NOT tell you.
How about...when your trying to give advice about serious traumatic events, you treat EVERYONE like they are valued and loved.
Like the group USED to do
I've said my peace. If we remain friends at least, that would be great.
Just because I dont agree with you doesn't mean I hate you. But by god, i would NEVER try to tell someone to GET OVER IT when your discussing a topic about cancer. You could very well be the last comment that person will ever tolerate again.
You all hold such immense power with what your trying to do when it comes to helping people.
But like the old adage goes
"With great power comes RESPONSIBILITIES"