Hi Anya! Thanks for your message! It's always good to see a little note from you, and hope you and your daughter are doing well! Yes that book has been helpful to me. One little mental exercise that it suggested was great . . . it said, close your eyes and imagine an infinite chess board, extending out to infinity in all directions. There are white pieces clustered together, representing all your "positive" thoughts, feelings, ideas about yourself, memories, etc. . . and there are black pieces clustered together as well, representing all your 'negative' thoughts, feelings, ideas about yourself, memories and so on. Now you are watching them and you notice they are at war. The white pieces are trying to beat the black pieces and the black pieces are trying to beat the white pieces . . . where are you? Are you the pieces? Are you the one manipulating the pieces, engaging in the war? Or are you the chess board?
The chess board does not engage in the war, the chess board witnesses the war, but does not get engaged. The chess board just contains all the pieces. So the exercise helps you to witness that you already contain all these pieces inside of you -- you have room inside of yourself for all the pieces -- they are already there. So instead of trying to get one set of pieces to beat the other set of pieces, disengage from the war, and take up a position of neutrality, where you witness the emotions, but you do not feel "I am angry," instead "I witness a feeling of anger." You do not say "I " am anger, instead I witness it. And it's interesting but it helps somewhat to get that distance. If you get up and go somewhere, as the chess board, you bring all the white pieces and all the black pieces with you! It's like in Forest Gump, "Wherever you go, there you are."

I thought it was a neat mindfulness technique. It takes a while to get in the habit of witnessing, instead of identifying.
Jean, I loved what you said:
And I know I'm "preaching to the choir" again, when I say the 11:11 prompt is so special... and in a way I think the Midwayers enjoy having the "wrong" clocks tell us when it's the "right" time!!!
That is so poetic and so cool ! ! !
It's really true, Anya and Jean, the way we are able to rely on each other for support and kindness during tough times. I feel all that love and concern shining out from you all and it's helped me a lot!!
I'm on the case sending healing out to all of you too. With love, MIchele
