I hope you have a relaxing week end in store.
You asked some interesting questions and some I wonder about myself... just recently when I thought of Wingzie. Like you, I would hate to think that my missing our passed on loved ones or the" not so nice things I do"
would cause them any discomfort in their current placement in the next realm. I wonder sometimes if our comfortable adjustment on the other side may not boil down to each of our own personalities and lessons we have learned in this mortal life which we take with us as we pass over. It would seem that some people who pass on most likely have a broader understanding of the scope of our human life and so look at their still mortal friends and relatives with the keen eye of understanding, allowing much that is unsavory to wash away in the knowledge that understnding will arrive. I do believe our intial grief could be rather painful for the freshly deceased. Lets face it, there would be much "reckoning" to do as we establish a morontia equlibrium and a new way of being. I still believe the afterlife is filled with as many lessons and adventures as we can possibly obtain and so, with time, perhaps knowledge grows and with it our ability to reach back and help those on other worlds who struggle with understanding their own special place in the universe. Yet as with humans, I wonder that maybe some adjust easier than others and sometimes looking back can cause difficulties in adjustments as we may live still in regret and looking back as is so common a problem with us humans.
I definitely believe they can give us messages, at the very least, with the many people's experiences this seems to be the case. Some people have a natural ability to interput precisely these messages or hear the particular vibes of their passed on loved ones... There have been times our Midwayer friends, who are angels of a sort in my mind with the love they hold for all of us,
have actually acted as message bearers as they either pass on the message or facillitate communication in some way. They did this for George and I on our wedding day and allowed us to speak with several late and loving relatives who longed to wish us their best. I must say it was a powerful gift. 
Some people would love to dispute these kinds of experiences, providing all kinds of practical and purely human reasons why this is not possible, but having gone through it myself and knowing the amazing impact of those moments...something very hard to explain...I can say "I'm sorry", to the naysayers..."but there is absolutely no doubt in my mind that communication is possible between these two amazing venues of mortal development.
Hmmm not sure I've answered any of your questions Viv,
but I am wondering if they are best and will be answered by your own experience and in ways that will make you jump with joy! 
I hope so! (((HUGS)))))...and lots of love,
Sandy
, amazed 
. It was black!?! Anyone???
